Boobs are magic. You see it from the first moment you watch your child be calmed by breastfeeding. Your partner puts your baby to her breast, and there is peace again in the world. As a non-nursing parent, it can be intimidating to think about comforting your child without the magic of breastfeeding, but it is totally possible. A wonderful, connected relationship can exist between you and your child, but it does take intentional work. Don’t be intimated by your baby. She is your baby and is designed to love and connect with you just as much as with the parent who gave birth to her. (more…)
I read. I researched. I was a sponge for information while pregnant. And I still am, even now, eight months postpartum.
Despite all of my research, I still had this crazy idea…that my newborn baby would sleep in her own room, her own bed. Yeah. No. Didn’t happen. Obviously. And so our family bed was born.
In the beginning, sex was the farthest thing from my mind. But four weeks after giving birth to my daughter my sex drive was back in full force. But our bed was no longer our own. (more…)
Nursing in public. NIP. It’s a pretty controversial topic as of late. All over the country women are being shunned. They are being kicked out of store after store. Restaurant after restaurant. Shamed for covering. Shamed for not covering. Asked to nurse in bathrooms.
Federal Law states:
Notwithstanding any other provision of law, a woman may breastfeed her child at any location in a Federal building or on Federal property, if the woman and her child are otherwise authorized to be present at the location.
This doesn’t state that the woman is only allowed to nurse in bathrooms. Only allowed to nurse with a cover. This doesn’t state that the woman is only allowed to nurse the way others deem appropriate. (more…)
Some will tell you sex after baby is better than ever. Having three children, we have had a very different experience. Here are tips for bringing the spice back into the bedroom after baby enters your home.
Tip 1: Easy does it… Set no expectations
Set a schedule of when to enjoy some alone time together. However, remember to take it slowly. Whether it’s once per day, once per week, or every third day, set aside time for intimacy. Sensate focus is a wonderful means of rekindling the old spark. The most important thing is for you and your partner to agree that no matter what transpired throughout the day (between the two of you, with baby, with other children, at work, etc.), the two of you will enjoy “truce touch”, including gentle hugs and kind words. (more…)
When we first discovered I was pregnant, I knew I wanted to breastfeed. To be honest, I’m not sure why I knew that, but using formula never occurred to me. When my daughter was born, we jumped on the breastfeeding train. But we hit some bumps along the way. A huge bump – like a struggle with low supply. I remember sitting there for those first few days when we were home bawling my eyes out! My sweet little girl was losing weight – over a pound. They told me, breastfeed her, pump, feed that to her, offer her formula. This consumed my day, not to mention exhausted me! But I would do anything to get her to gain weight.
John kept telling me, it’s not a big deal. Who cares? Just give her formula. He didn’t get it! As if my hormones weren’t already off the chart, I couldn’t stop crying. I mean, how could I be a good mom if I couldn’t even make enough milk to feed my baby? This poor girl had no chance because I was failing already! That is when it really hit me – I didn’t just want to breastfeed my baby, I had to breastfeed my baby! If it didn’t work, I felt I was failing. So we nursed, and pumped and offered her formula. (more…)